• Ash Faraj: Founder & Host

I'm Planning My Funeral Today

Sorry, I wrote the title before the blog, and I just realized how morbid it sounds - I don't mean to be morbid!


Contrary to traditional belief, I actually believe that thinking about death and vividly imagining how I want my funeral to be is healthy.


Here's why it's healthy (at least for me):


1) I feel "high" on gratitude


If you're reading this right now I'm guessing you are a living, breathing human-being with the gift of being able to see these symbols and quickly understand what I'm communicating. That is a miracle.


Every human that has lived on this earth, has also died; so when I think of my funeral, I become so grateful that I am alive in this very moment that I am capable of absorbing almost any "bad news."


2) I forgive and let go very quickly & easily


Earlier this year, there was a former team member that was a part of ExecuTalks - who is no longer with us - who didn't leave on a good note. As a matter of fact, he was one of my best friends personally. After deciding he was going to leave ExecuTalks, he took control of our social media pages (Facebook & Twitter) and changed important business information like links, pictures, etc. In the long run, this really negatively impacts a brand because the consumer may get confused with the different messaging, etc. It also means that in order to regain control, I need to pay lawyer fees, etc.


Anyway, long story short: I completely forgive him and I've let go 100%.


If he were to ask for my help one day or if he would want to rekindle our friendship, I wouldn't hesitate to accept (I've let go). Thinking about my funeral allows me to realize that my behavior may be an example for others when I am long gone. And I would want people to be forgiving, loving, and letting go. In the grand scheme, what does a Twitter & Facebook page that can be re-created mean in relation to a funeral?


3) I get more clarity on what I should be doing right now


I heard someone once say, "Only 20% of what you actually do matters." I'm not really sure where I heard it but it stuck with me for some reason. What really matters?


I've always struggled with questions like "Am I doing the right things?" "How do I know if what I'm doing right now, like writing this blog, matters at all?" "How can I make sure I'm using my time to effectively?"


When I create an imagination of my funeral, it allows me to see my final destination. Knowing your final destination is half the battle; knowing where you want to be at the end of your life, allows you to know where you want to be five years from now, ten years from now, twenty years from now, etc.


If you know where you want to be, it becomes so much more clear on what you should be doing right now to get there! Is it more effective to travel from Seattle to New York on a plane or a car? Is it more effective to travel from Seattle to Tacoma on a plane or a car?


You see, without knowing your destination, you won't know how to get there!


Once you have the destination (imagination of funeral), you can decide on a vehicle (how your time is spent).


Hope you give this some thought,

Ash

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